I smoke weed about 2-3 times a year.
When there is a good occasion like a birthday me and my friends often let it go with a joint and some music.
My partner now says she doesn't want to be together with someone who "takes drugs".
I don't want to lose her because of weed but I also don't want to quit the cozy summer evenings I sometimes have with my friends / cousins.
Why are women so stubborn? She seems to have bad experiences with people around her who were actual addicts to some hard stuff, but this is MY life and I have a stable job, family and in general everything is going well.
I feel like she is imagining the perfect future husband in me and doesn't give a shit about my needs and what I like. It is very obvious that I have it under control.
Yesterday she even tried to emotionally blackmail me by saying things like "I'm not even sure if I can sleep with someone who takes drugs" or "After a fun weed evening with friends you will come home and see tears, so it is better for us both if you don't take drugs".
Yet, drinking is totally okay and she even does it herself sometimes despite "hating" it.
I do not drink at all by the way.
What would you do?
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