I came from Europe to the US not so long ago and since I still don't have my docs and a normal job, I rent a room from one lady who lives alone with her small daughter.

 

After a while I realized the lady is such an interesting specimen for analysis.

So lets start with the fact she doesn't clean almost at all (only a couple of times a month she would clean the hall lightly for her daughter's tutor while her room, her bathroom, and the kitchen are constantly messy with things thrown all over the floor). She doesn't have a notion of tidying her desk or a shelf, or anything at all. She even cannot keep in mind where her part of the fridge is or how to close a drawer or closet door after herself. If I don't close the drawers in the kitchen, they all stay open(the doors of her closets and drawers in her room are always open). I even did the experiment by closing the doors in the kitchen and then observing how she makes them all open. Her hand goes to the drawer, she opens it, takes out a glass, then her hand makes a motion as if to close it and, stops midway, and never achieves the process of closing.

The same goes with the fridge The fridge is separated into two parts, mine being the right one. Very often I find things that she put in my part of the fridge. I also did an experiment with it - I would leave an empty spot on my side of the fridge and then observe her put something in the fridge - she opens the fridge, her eyes absentmindedly scan for an empty space, she put the thing that she held in her hand at the empty space and she closes the fridge(at least one thing she can close, lol).

One time I tried showing her how to tidy up a shelf in the kitchen and she started whimpering - "No, I cannot do this, I remember I had this roommate that was forcing me to clean and it was hell! No, please, let's not do this!"

 

I got very interested in what the hell is wrong with her(cause it's clearly some sort of disability) and started accurately asking her about her past. Here is what I learned:

She started hating cleaning in her childhood. She told me her parents were forcing her to clean and maybe it is the reason she hates cleaning. After more inconspicuous questioning, it turned out her parents were simply asking her to clean up a bit to which she was throwing tantrums.

She was married twice and both her husbands divorced her and possibly one of the reasons was her utter refusal to clean. She told me her first husband was asking her to clean after she cooks to which she absolutely refused saying "I'm much younger than you, be glad you can fuck a young girl and don't force me to clean". He hired a maid and soon divorced.

Her second husband divorced with her pretty quickly even though they had a child. I suspect not wanting to clean played a big role in it as well. I met him a couple of times and he was joking about how she never cleans anything.

And there are plenty of more examples of her not wanting to clean and suffering because of it.

 

So now I would ask the psychologists and doctors in here - what could be the reason of such behavior? Is it physiological, some sort om ADHD? Or is it psychological and might be somehow related to the fact her mother took her to States from the Soviet Union while she was a little kid and she never saw her father again?