>kinda/maybe/not really-gf
Cringe.
>would feel better if I don't get too emotionally attached to her
Extra-cringe. Unfortunately, I'm afraid your relationship is doomed to fail.
>she also wants me to fug other women
Agree, but only on the condition that she would have sex with no men but you (she can date women), and she would have to participate in you fugging other women. This way she either would become jealous and turn into your 100% gf, or at least you would get some hot mff action.
PS: Also
>er exbf was some depressed schizo who made her responisble for his emotional wellbeing. She is afraid of something like this happening
sounds like bullshit that women like to invent (and subsequently convince themselves into believing their own bullshit) to feel better about fucking other guys behind your back.