Close, 19. She's 18.

How do I 'just' ask her?

'Want me to give you a tour of Rdam?'

 

Actually that sounds bretty gud.

Okay my young Nigger, listen.

I lost my virginity shortly before my 23rd birthday.

 

If you don't want to end up like this, just fucking do it. There are only two possible answers. Yes and no.

She even said I'll come drink tea, how easy can it be?

That's because I talked like a retard. When women assume you are unintelligent they think that you're a harmless flesh dildo and let their guard down. If I show her my autism/powerlevel she'll feel danger.

 

I asked her if she wanted me to give her a tour through the city.

Fingers crossed it pays off. I lost my virginity last year to a hooker and then had sex again in November. I would like it if I could fuck a pretty around my age girl like her for fun, not money.

Dating apps are very tiresome. Over the last two months, I've had close to 100 matches on tinder and bumble, about a dozen dates and only one of them went to kissing, but not more.

 

Just a picture and some texting is really not enough to determine if you are compatible with someone.

I would get only 2-3 matches in that time, and of those, all would ghost me

Show your profile

I won't show my profile, but if you really give a shit you can improve your profile with information you find online. There are studies about this, not just pop-science, PUA-bullshit articles. I remember OKcupid did some empirical research into which factors lead to the success of pictures.

 

Some tips I can share from personal experience:

- get good quality pics. Just having pictures taken with a better camera improves the number of matches.

- Get a picture with a cute dog or cat. THIS IS LITERALLY THE MOST IMPORTANT THING! Obviously you can get matches without it, but for me it increased the number of matches by a factor of 3 if I had to guess.

- Not just selfies, get pics that show you in interesting places, taken by someone else. What you see in the background might be a conversation starter and it shows you have a life besides taking selfies and swiping on tinder.

- work on your bio. If possible with female friends.

 

Which leads me to other advice: You need to improve many aspects of your life, not just crack some magic code to a tinder profile.

 

You need to work on your social skills and unbernd yourself. This has been a years long process for me, but I have made some improvements. Get yourself in situations where you talk to people. Not something completely uncharacteristic, but take small steps out of your comfort zone. I was bullied in school and became Bernd. But when I moved away and met strangers, I slowly figured out I'm normal and not everyone immediately hates me. Also reflect on how you interact with others.

 

Get friends. Do something with your life. Get an job, education, hobbies. These things can help finding friends.

 

Go outside. Do interesting things. Experience life. Take pictures for your dating profile.

 

Improve your attractiveness. Eat healthy, exercise, take care of your hair, beard, skincare. Learn a bit about fashion, get nice well fitting clothes.

 

Just a general overview. I can get into more specifics if Bernds are interested. But keep in mind I don't know it all. I'm just a Bernd who has made a determined effort to improove for a while now. On tinder I have met 1 ONS, 1 FWB and 1 friend I regularly talk to and can get advice on girls from, if you want to measure my success by that, but I'm not constantly using it. Just sometimes I try it out for a couple of weeks/months. (Btw, you also improve your tinder skills and attitude towards it just over time.)

I didn't ask you to show your profile, Keinshit.

Sounds like you have to advertise yourself like a product in the supermarket shelves next to 1000s of your kind.

 

Take me!! I'm a fun guy!

No take me! I have been to the ocean with friends last year!

No!!! Take ME!! I have a S-I-X-P-A-C-K and I work out 3 times a week!

 

Sad.

 

I will never understand the people that use dating apps.

And this is how I see the women there.

Showing off their bodies and some bullshit written in the background that nobody cares about.

 

People are not products, why do so many sell their souls to (((dating apps)))?

That's literally it.

 

You can obviously choose not to play the game and maybe you're lucky and get a gf anyways.

 

Or you play the game and consciously improve yourself, but then you're making an effort and could be disappointed, or rewarded. Luck is still a factor.

 

But real life is also a competition, even if you're not consciously aware of it. I read an interview with a scientist who did research into attractiveness and relationships. The interviewer said he had good insight into what makes a man the most attractive and desireable for dating, statistically speaking, yet he didn't put much effort into reaching these ideals himself. He said he had less desire to play this game, the more he knew about the rules.

Ok you're reaching schizo territory now. Most people are not showing off their bodies and contrary to the kc tier theory, people aren't just searching casual sex there.

Me. I believe in mutual love as I see it everywhere in my family.

I'm not a bucket of yoghurt carrying a price tag and neither is my partner.

 

 

Dating apps are dehumanising us and I feel sorry for every single individual falling for this big giant meme.

If I can meet people in real life I think I can connect with them.

However it is getting to meet in real life that is the tricky part.

I hate online dating, but I don't want to miss out when everything's fucking closed down.

You sell your soul on a daily basis, what difference does it make if it's a dating app?

Not selling your soul means becoming a retard like Varg or Linkola. Not sure if I want that.

Name some product of judeo-christian culture that isn't dehumanising.

Where?

 

Also, what about your pride?

I could never sign up to such a service, knowing that people will look at me like a "thing" swiping left or right, idk what is what.

In the supermarket, in your occupation, in your interaction with people who are not friends or enemies, in not doing what you want to do and in accepting things out of convenience.

I wouldn't be proud of myself anytime. I seek understanding from a girl of flesh and blood more than I seek vain pride over absent accomplishments.

 

I think that if this dating app provides the opportunity of a fun, good experience - that it'll have been worth it.

I still fail to see how dating apps are dehumanizing or selling your soul.

 

You make a profile, try to present yourself in a good way and hope to find someone you then meet in real life. From there it isn't much different from meeting someone randomly at university or the supermarket.

Do you think you are treated as a thing if you ask a girl at the Kirmes if she wants to go out with you and she has to make a decision to say yes or no?

No.

Do you have autism?

Yes. Also I'm trans if that matters.

Alllll kinds of messed up..

I can make a Peruvian bumble guide or something

Any non-verbose bald guys have success on the dating apps?