Son of KC / 351124

I drank a bit of alcohol today and a few hours later wanted to instinctively blame my non alcohol problems on it (like my nervous system is messed up but alcohol is a plausible excuse)

Is this what addicts to anything go through? Like you get a secondary benefit of some kind and you just don't admit it to yourself. Then the actual physical addiction happens if it's substances etc

Bernd2025-11-20 16:11:00 · 7mnNo. 351125 reply

Another example from my experience, but without alcohol. I spoke to a girl that was "stalked" by some guy she met on 4chan. He was coming onto her pretty hard and somehow pressuring her to reveal her personal info like where she lives etc. He was also manipulative in the sense that he threatens to suffer a lot if she leaves. (kek)

So she was panicky and didn't know what to do and kept speaking to him until she got brave enough to drop him.

Now I didn't really understand why she did it.

The thought pattern of hers was bizzare to me. In hindsight it was probably like alcohol to some people. Sharing personal info is obviously bad but it was some form of intimacy she couldn't get anywhere else? so weird

Bernd2025-11-20 18:16:15 · 7mnNo. 351127 reply

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>>351124

Yeah I suppose it is normal among addicts. But you have to also keep in mind that people often abuse substances because of boredom or to cope with problems that they are burdened in their lives.

I don't know about your friend, but I suppose that you already told her to normalize blocking people more often

Bernd2025-11-20 20:10:06 · 7mnNo. 351128 reply

>>351127

>boredom

I did hear remote villages have bigger drinking problems for that reason

>cope with problems that they are burdened in their lives

yeah I guess what I described is a form of coping. another thing I heard is Vietnam vets abused drugs but as soon as they came back home their addictions were much easier to treat or even gone

I knew these things in abstract but I never experienced how it actually looks.

Bernd2025-11-20 20:40:36 · 7mnNo. 351131 reply

>>351127

>>351128

>boredom

It's a spiral too. Those who drink out of boredom gonna have less tolerance for boredom and they reach for the bottle more easily.

Boredom is needed to be treated by creativity, not with alcohol.

We have a saying: the ox drinks alone. Drinking alone is often a sign of alcoholism. Bernds are often solitary so they have to be extra careful.