Ask her out.
I have a condition and it's troubling me deeply: I am completely obsessed with a girl, this is going on for a few months already. I can't stop thinking about her, the thoughts pierce everything I do, sometimes I even dream about her and the environment I'm exposed to her in. At the same time I have the realization that there will never be a romantic relationship between us, probably not even friendship. But even this rationalization doesn't help me, the obsession is still there. I still want to spend time with her. How the fuck do I cope with this or solve the situation? It's a burden, because I can't focus on other stuff, because of it. Of course I had crushes before, but never at this intensity and nearly everyday I have interact with her, so I can't just "forget". Why is God testing me like that? He's dangling the sweetest fruit in front of my face, but I will never be able to eat it.
I know that chair. Yes you should ask her out or make some attempt to get closer to her
Would i do that, in your position? Idk, ask someone else. You can either take a shot and risk rejection or live with a 'what if' feeling for the rest of your life - it is your life, nothing except learned behaviour compells you to behave in the way you do
>"Everyone strives after the law,” says the man, “so how is that in these many years no one except me has requested entry?”
The gatekeeper sees that the man is already dying and, in order to reach his diminishing sense of hearing, he shouts at him,
<“Here no one else can gain entry, since this entrance was assigned only to you. I’m going now to close it.
https://www.kafka-online.info/before-the-law.html
TL;DR don't kid yourself berndlefly
Who's the girl, btw? What is this hostile environment?
We are colleagues. If I had met her anywhere else, I would have unironically done it, but with her being my colleague it's impossible, completely inappropriate in a work environment. We talked a bit yesterday and she said often she doesn't even realize when people like her, which is obvious. I think other girls in her situation would have already realized I'm into her.
Do you have her social media? Just try to get closer to her outside work.
There is a woman at my office who started messaging me on WhatsApp exactly when she started to meet me and she invited us to do something on the weekend.
I'm not into her but it's acceptable.
It's not the end of the world if you are not sending photos of your genitalia.
>You are so stupid and passive Bernd.
My job is temporary, I will get fired, if I "harass" my female co-workers lol. And I don't want to lose the one person I can talk to in the office. Yes, I'm scared and don't have the courage to ask her out, that's life.
>Just try to get closer to her outside work.
Yeah, I have her number and I went to the cinema with her before, so I guess she is open to doing stuff outside of work. Just have to think of something else I could do with her.
Harassment is repeated, unwanted advances. You don't know if she would refuse and you haven't made one advance yet. Stop making excuses for yourself
>Just have to think of something else I could do with her.
Jej i can't see what the problem is. You're halfway there already. As for your job you already said its a temp thing, why worry?
If you don't face this fear you'll never attain happiness
Shyness is nice, and shyness can stop you
From doing all the things in life that you'd like to
Shyness is nice, and shyness can stop you
From doing all the things in life that you'd like to
So if there's something you'd like to try
If there's something you'd like to try
Ask me, I won't say no, how could I?