not really, though i would not abuse my friends and partners irl since it's not okay, seeing your partner crying is not fun, it's cruel
but since we talk about fictional characters who will get nothing from your drawings/thoughts etc, coming from character idealisation to gruesome way of showing your affection is a result of how long you stick with certain character, as if "honeymoon period" coming to end
i sound like lolicon with this "it's fine as long as you don't rape real children"... it wasn't a goal to object an abuse towards the character, rather an attempt to explain why i feel this way