What turned me from open wino into a closeted alcohoid who only gets hammered alone, safely and infrequently was a sequence of very shameful events that put my relationship with people that matter to me at great risk.
I can't say I regret drinking less, I feel better and picked up dieting and working out again.
I did lose some friends irreparably along the way because they got tired of my drunk misbehaviour, but those who mattered the most are still with me.
The shame and anxiety is what made it easy for me to stop habitual daily drinking.