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United StatesBernd2023-10-22 04:29:21 · 3yNo. 291802reply
A cashier tried to make small talk with me while buying beer. another place I will have to avoid now, great
 
being an autist in america is hell
United StatesBernd2023-10-22 05:19:43 · 3yNo. 291803reply
you can do it bernd
through confidence you gain experience
through experience you lose fear
you can do it
United StatesBernd2023-10-22 05:26:00 · 3yNo. 291804reply
I am capable of pretending to be somewhat normal but it requires a lot of energy and I refuse to waste it on a simple transaction
FinlandBernd2023-10-22 08:50:50 · 3yNo. 291823reply
did you atleast remember to clap after the encounter?
PolandBernd2023-10-22 10:09:54 · 3yNo. 291827reply
> another place I will have to avoid now, great
do you really think the cashier cares? you're not the weirdest person they've encountered today
FinlandBernd2023-10-22 15:20:33 · 3yNo. 291836reply
Yes he is, she spent her coffee break telling about him to her coworkers and laughing at him
GermanyBernd2023-10-22 15:45:14 · 3yNo. 291837reply
I just showed his post to my gf and both of us started laughing at him.
United StatesBernd2023-10-22 16:00:49 · 3yNo. 291838reply
the more you do it the easier it becomes. until you can do it on autopilot like everyone else
you are also clearly over-worrying about details that noone else worries about, thus increasing the amount of energy required
even when you fail, you may bring laughter and joy. the advantage of being non-threatening is that noone will be very bothered by your attempts to interact
United StatesBernd2023-10-23 03:52:01 · 3yNo. 291870reply
it's not that I care what she thinks of me, it's that I hate forced meaningless conversation and avoid it at all costs.
 
for example trader Joe's is a great store and I love buying their food, but the cashiers are trained to be friendly and try to spark up conversations about what you're wearing or what you're buying so I dread the checkout line.
PolandBernd2023-10-23 08:46:53 · 3yNo. 291878reply
avoid looking at people's faces if you don't want them to interact with you
 
> conversations about what you're wearing or what you're buying
really? what do they say?
 
here it's mostly all "hellos" and "goodbyes", sometimes they mention the weather (but only if it's particularly bad) and once a lady asked me about a product I was buying (because she wanted to know if it's any good)
FinlandBernd2023-11-04 09:44:03 · 3yNo. 292915reply
I am a Finnish assburger, and this is the most assburger country in the world. (Japan puts up a lot of competition, but they still have this social conformity thing.) I've also lived a couple of years in England, for contrast, and can confirm that I got a reverse culture shock from all that Finnish assburgerism. So, you'd think this would be an assburger-friendly country. And it isn't. We were just born on the wrong planet.
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