this is an excellent point. Most gays are not easily identifiable as gay. bill burr makes a joke by describing the stereotypical flambouyant, outgoing gay, which is generally the only one that clearly signals publicly. The rest are ordinary, and typically have the same look on their faces. The flambouyant ones, though, are typically depressed and anxious and hide it behind happy faces (get to know one, you'll find out soon)
we have a bunch of bars that are mostly college kids. And then there is just 1 with a mix of locals, gays, old folks, etc