I’m not sure, he could learn to take a suggestion without whining. Because it feels like his obstinate behavior transitions to aggression and hostility towards recommenders. Even though he’s the one to ask us a question, and expects us to be nice and supportive about it (And we aren’t, at least most of us…)
It’s not just about getting your wishful thinking judged. It’s about accepting what and how the world (Brends from all around) responds to it. That’s my opinion…