>But it does mean a man who dates older women would be considered desperate so they would try to hide such relationships
Those are some wild assumptions, why would it mean that? For example, I have always had what in Spanish we call “ganado” (cattle, a group of women you can fuck) so I’m always out of milk, yet I have met several beautiful women older than me and dated/fucked them. Most of the men I know are turbochads and not desperate at all, they have acess to plenty of younger women yet almost all of them have dated/fucked older women. Where’s the desperation?
Based in experience empiric only, I have always fucked women both younger and older than me when I had the chance. I could’t care less about the ages except if she’s underage and if she is so old she is not beautiful anymore.