Son of KC / 253821

I went to the doctor today. I told him about my loneliness and my feeling of emptiness. He asked me if I ever had dark thoughts and cried, to which I replied in the affirmative. Instead of prescribing me a girlfriend, he prescribed me fluoxetine. When will they understand?

Bernd2023-02-10 21:01:18 · 3yNo. 253840 reply

It might help you though. But therapy alongside would be better. But meds can be a start. Assessing your situation differently.

I can understand that your need of intimacy and closeness to another person is a basic human need and lacking it, can make you suffer.

But a GF won't fix you. That just happens in TV.

And your thinking "having a GF will fix almost everything" is unrealistic, even if it feels completely differently to you.

You should maybe talk to a therapist. Maybe not female, but male. (Or you will start projecting your needs on her and such)

In your mind: What would happen if you get that GF? What if she leaves you after 3 months? Will you be back to "I need a GF" and go back to your hole?

The problem is something completely else. And you will have to fix it yourself (meds and therapy can support this though) (Most likely) while not having a GF

Bernd2023-02-10 21:05:24 · 3yNo. 253841 reply

>>253840

Have you ever suffered from depression? Have you ever taken antidepressants and went to therapy? My mother suffers from depression and in Germany it’s impossible to get actual help. She’s contacted every therapist in the city, but nobody takes patients and if only privately insured ones. This country has a problem. It’s sad to see a person suffering close to you and knowing there’s no help. Same with Bernds tbh.

Bernd2023-02-10 21:10:49 · 3yNo. 253842 reply

>>253841

It's hard, I know that.

Have you tried training institutes? Therapists in training can bill with public insurances.

You do know of https://old.reddit.com/r/de/comments/jc7mdo/wie_man_einen_therapieplatz_findet_v20_choose/?

If it's urgent she can always go to the hospital and admit herself. What about a day clinic?

Going to a 50 minutes therapy session once a week is often not nearly enough for a severely depressed person and can help you only that much

Bernd2023-02-10 21:12:17 · 3yNo. 253843 reply

>>253840

Why are you so nice to me when I'm negative on every one of my threads? Thank you for being human with me, I respect you.

I will try taking these pills to see if my mental health improves. Fortunately, I have my mother's support, but I believe I have greatly disappointed my father. The doctor advised me to make an appointment with a psychologist. It doesn't matter if it's a woman or a man. I have no hatred towards women. I will do everything to get better but I have been in a downward spiral for a year and a half.