Yes, rub it in.
Ever since I've gotten a gf I've started thinking about the importance of family and such things as having children.
The idea that inserting your penis into a vagina and orgasming, allowing your boy juice to enter the vaginal area of a woman being one of the things that define the entire existence of another person is, to say the least, very macabre.
Such a pointless thing ends up being the very reason someone else exists. I'm not saying that sex is meaningless or anything, and if you have sex with someone you love then it is meaningful. But to think that something like that, could happen between people who are not even in love and there is nothing keeping them from forming babby, everything seems so meaningless right now. Some people are born from sexual intercourse that could even have happened after a night out of drinking and babby being formed from that incident.
I'm not trying to show off or anything.
It's just that there are many children out there formed out of wedlock, me being one of them.
It makes me think of how meaningless having children really is, like, you can have sex with any woman without protection one time, then be reminded for the rest of your life of that one single incident because baby was formed from it.
It really doesn't mean anything at all, I used to think that forming another person was a big deal, but I am only now realizing that it really doesn't mean anything at all. One single man can father a fuckton of children, and it wouldn't even be considered morally wrong to do that either.
I'm growing up now realizing that I can form a baby too, back then I used to consider myself a product of a relationship, now I'm starting to realize that I also have this ability to form lives and it really makes me think about stuff.
> you can have sex with any woman without protection one time, then be reminded for the rest of your life of that one single incident because baby was formed from it
odds of that happening are low; women aren't fertile for the most part of the month and even if you hit that fertile window perfectly, conception is still not guaranteed (not to mention stuff like early miscarriages which are frequent and women often aren't even aware of them)
But it happens, and I'm pretty sure that's what happened in my case too.
I spent a long time with my mother and there was always an idea of how wrong it was to have a child and then not take care of him.
This entire idea comes from a woman's perspective, as a man you want to have as many sexual conquests as humanly possible, fathering children also means that you are a successful sexual partner. It's part of what makes a man's confidence grow in life, it makes you feel meaningful and it happens very often.
I've been almost brainwashed into thinking that it is a wrong thing to do, but what the fuck, everyone in life should be allowed to do whatever the hell they feel like. Everyone is given equal opportunities in life, every person is an individual, there's no such thing as doing something and then being forced to do things for the rest of your life based on that one occurance. The longer I spend time living life the more sense it makes. There are cases out there where people live under the same situation as me and they spend years upon years, if not their entire lives, blaming the absent parent. It's the wrong mentality to have, you're making yourself the victim and it's an easy thing to do, I want to distance myself from that and just make peace with what happened. No grudges, no anger, none of that, I don't blame anyone for my misfortunes. While it may have been a better thing for me to have more emotional support growing up, it's not really something that makes or breaks people.
I don't know, it's really starting to put life into perspective here, I've reached the conclusion that it's best to just come to terms with how things ended up being, instead of holding the absent parent up to some imaginary standard that I might have created in my mind that has nothing to do with reality.
I felt like there needed to be a background associated with the argument I was trying to make.
If I didn't include that then my argument would have had less credibility and made less sense, as it would have been implied that I was just making up an imaginary situation in my mind where I was trying to make sense of an idea instead of there being a reasonable motive as to why I was taking that very specific situation into consideration in a way that has a relationship to a case that could apply to the life of another person, making for a discussion that could potentially have value through the idea that someone else might identify himself with what I was bringing up.
I'm here to bring discussions that not only are relevant to myself, but also have the ability to influence the lives of others through emotions and logical standpoints which make sense for different types of people and could have the potential to make others think of scenarios which could theoretically put themselves in a position of another person, taking their issues to heart, and discussing the same subject which could lead to different viewpoints which might aid the person who came up with the topic in attempting to make sense of something through different perspectives that has a background in what different people with different experiences in life may contribute to the same idea.
>tell that to children born to neglectful parents or ones abandoned in orphanages or ones born into poverty; I could go on but you get the picture
There are definitely cases where the parent's decisions negatively influence the lives of their children. But as someone who also had similar experiences growing up, I can also tell you that the amount of which these influences can take a hold of the life of a person also comes down to how much the individual allows it to happen. Unless you are suffering from some sort of aggressive emotional abuse, or physical abuse, then there is a certain amount of freedom involved in the decision of a person. I found out very early on that parents aren't exactly always the best role models and that I probably should consider them as regular human beings than anything else.
This very idea sometimes never comes into the realization of some people, and they allow their emotions and the progress of their lives to be completely influenced by decisions that their parents made or continue to make.
Every person is an individual with different personalities, abilities to make life choices, find happiness, experience success in different types of careers, so on and so forth.
There's the potential of someone who was born into complete and utter poverty with nothing going for them, to manage success through society. The only thing keeping a person from this is the person itself. Mental blockage is something very present in many people, so they resort to identifying themselves as victims instead of adopting a mindset which allows them to grow as people.
I'd also like to touch on the subject of poverty, as you mentioned. Definitely there are cases in life where people are born severely disadvantaged in comparison to the average person, and no matter what they do the likelihood of them managing to leave poverty is unlikely. But then you'd be going into an argument where it is implied that society owes something towards an individual just by existing. And that argument is null and void, nobody should expect handouts from anything or anybody, it would completely ruin the very foundations of what society is built around, which is by there having an expectation for a person to partake and contribute. And even then, in theory, there isn't really anything keeping anybody down. Society is built around the idea that it wants capable people to be successful, nobody benefits from there being a system that keeps certain people down while allowing others to prosper solely by being born under certain situations. The way things function is by thinking about an average person, giving these people opportunities based around their individual abilities, people who find themselves in poverty are not the average person, so you can't expect society to somehow change in the way it works by giving so much more opportunities to a certain specific class of people above others. There's always going to be people out there who are less advantaged than others, be it by being less capable or being born under a certain context which makes it more difficult for that person to succeed. Personally, I'd rather be putting attention towards the average person, as they outnumber those who find themselves in poverty, and due to the fact that just taking numbers into consideration, it is way more likely for an average person to have abilities that are meaningful and have the potential to make the world a better place for everyone in society. People born in poverty are born in poverty because of the people responsible for their existence, their parents, their families, etc. If those people were unremarkable people, unable to show traits which could make them leave poverty, then chances are, that the person born in poverty also inherited these same things from their parents. Poverty is not always something that just happens by chance, it can, but staying in poverty is another subject entirely.
>it's a surface level appraisal of the actual existential reality of the situation.
How much deeper could it possibly be?
It's just two people trying to enjoy themselves, then they accidentally form a baby out of the incident.
There's not even that much thought put into it in many cases, it's not like they had planned things beforehand and thought logically about what might happen if they did those things.
Some people are just born out of a mere coincidence, a situation where two people might not even have prepared themselves for what could potentially happen, then someone all of a sudden exists from that one case.
It's fucking meaningless.
I find it important to express because to me it is a revelation and something that I previously did not consider at all. And also due to the fact that I think that there might be other people out there who have shared this same mentality for a long time, and I thought to myself that I could identify with this majority instead of being someone with an opinion that might have been heavily influenced by the circumstances of my life.
I may not be completely right, there is room for that too, maybe it isn't exactly as meaningless as I am saying, but I am experimenting with the thought about the opposite extremity due to the fact that I spent a long time not even taking it into consideration.
It's probably somewhere in between, but it is not nearly as meaningful as I once thought it was.