is it worth making a life together with this girl?
I'm 23 years old and I am going to have an unwanted child with an 18 year old Colombian woman, she did not want to have an abortion when there was time although I threatened to abandon her and not give the child my last name, in fact I left for 5 months, I changed my number, I did not look for her during that time and I went back to Venezuela, specifically to Maracay where I am from, 1 week ago I speak her again under pressure from my parents because a brother of hers managed to contact them, in short 1 month left for the child to be born and my parents told me that they will help her to raise him, she is from Tolima but we were living in Barrancabermeja in Santander, we already have almost 2 years of informal relationship at this date, well that's the story, now where is more convenient for him to be born? I do not like the idea of having a Colombian child but if he is born in that country the state would give me a good pension to take care of him and he can have access to free health and other benefits, if he is born here in Venezuela in the future he could enter the universities here or the guard if he wants or a security corps here in the country because sincerely I do not think he will be someone in life, I also have in mind that here the bonuses they give in patria for having children are miserable and do not reach for a pussy, give me opinions, by the way she is white and middle class high estrato 5 and I get along well with her family, I even lived almost a year in pandemic in her parents house without paying rent or put even 5 pesos to eat.
Pic related is because I'm a miserable soul.
Bernd, unfortunately I am already tied to her for life, not so much because of a question of responsibility on my part, but because my parents are very religious.
Her mother is a manager of a bank called AVvillas, they are not rich but they all have cars and live well. Her dad keeps traveling all the time to the USA.
Bernd, maybe you don't want to know, but she is less than two months away from giving birth and will most likely be a father by August. I really don't know if I'm ready, I don't have a career and I don't know any really useful trades, I still feel like a little kid.
Her family despite loving me is very upset with me for leaving. However my parents talked to her parents, and they are going to help me get a good job since they don't want her to drop out of school.
My parents already decided for me that I should leave at the beginning of August, because I am a NEET who does not contribute or do anything and they told me that if I did not leave, I could no longer count on them and they were going to throw me out on the street.
So yes, I am going to have a Congolombian son, I hope my testimony will serve as an example and use protection next time. Now I am tied for life to a woman that I am certainly attracted to, but with whom I did not plan to make a life.
Unfortunately at the end of the month I will stop coming here because I probably won't have time, it was nice while it lasted, KC gets a lot of love from me for having given us shelter after hispachan's death, I would never have imagined that the eurobros from the east and north could be so friendly, even if they don't share their food.
>they are going to help me get a good job
Dude has everything rolled to him on a golden platter - a beautiful wife, who wouldn't kill her child because its father turned out to be a manchild; a membership in a middle-class Colombian family that is ready to forgive him for running away from his unborn child; and a good job even if he doesn't have a trade.
And yet he still complains and pities himself. What a grotesque satire, I would say - but such are bernds IRL.
Don't you understand the responsibility of being with one person for the rest of your life?
If you say that for the benefit of his family being able to help me, that makes me feel even worse, because a man should not depend on anyone.
And besides, I doubt it will ever be the same again, I think it's all a whim they have for the fact that I'm a single mother, simply because of what people will say. I hope everything ends well for me.
The truth is that I am fond of her, as far as I can tell, she has not been my first girlfriend but my first serious relationship and it saddens me to know that I will probably end up tied to her if not for life for a long time, losing the best of my youth.
You might not understand it yet, but your life is changing for the better. From a worthless NEET to a respectable family man - all because you cummed in a stubborn girl. As you can see ITT, many can only dream about such a twist of fate.
>I will probably end up tied to her if not for life for a long time, losing the best of my youth
Stop being an egoistic twat and man the fuck up. What would you do if this didn't happen and you were free to enjoy "the best of your youth"? Cumming in more girls? "Partying"? Playing videogames or football with your pals? Doing coke and dancing to 3AM to shitty reggae? That's not a life worth of living, that's squandering your youth on meaningless distractions. But now your life has a chance to get a meaning. Don't lose this chance like a shitty loser.
>because a man should not depend on anyone
What a load of horseshit. Don't refuse help because of your pride - take pride in repaying people who helped you. Own your debts and repay them - that's what men do. Besides, don't you depend on your parents now? What would you do if they throw you out?
>I still feel like a little kid
Flash news, bucko! Everyone feel the same way! Part of becoming an adult is realizing that you will always stay a teenager partially - and that everyone else around is the same way. Children believe that there's some finely defined line that separates "children" from "adults" and that "adults" are these big powerful beings that always know what's right. That's not true. Being an adult means being responsible for your actions and open to new experiences, because only with new experiences we can change ourselves to better and grow as a person. A real man is growing his entire life.
Here's a plan of actions for you:
1.) First of all, contact her and then her parents. Tell her and her parents that you are very sorry and that you running away was just a instinctive reaction from the shock. But you thought it out, talked with your parents and now ready to return in her life and be a good husband.
2.) Tell her you're going to help her through the pregnancy. And do it. Visit her in hospital etc. Pick up some books or at least read some online forums to better understand what's going on with her body and mind - women do get mood swings and sometimes even more serious issues (like manias, for example) during pregnancy and several days after the birth, because their bodies get hit with a lot of hormones. You should be ready for that and help her to go through these things. Discuss with her if she wants a natural birth or a cesarean section.
3.) Talk with her parents about that job. The specific details, what would be required of you. If it's something relatively complex, may be pick up some books on the subject. Assure them that you have the full intention to support her and the child while she finish her education - and after that as well, of course (albeit I wouldn't be surprised if in a few years your wife would be the breadwinner in your family).
4.) Discuss with her and her parents were your new family would live. Who would help with the baby? They require 24/7 care, so someone should always be awake and near.
5.) Man the fuck up and enjoy your new life instead of being scared of change.
This. If I was OP I'd marry her first and then impregnate her. I'd fuck her day and night, I'd make her scream my name, I'd choke her, spank her and twist her nipples, I'd make her wear silk stockings and lace masks, I wouldn't get off from her, knocking her up again and again until our house wouldn't be full of little brown ninos.
>Don't you understand the responsibility of being with one person for the rest of your life?
OH NOO YOU NO LONGER HAVE TO CONSTANTLY WORRY ABOUT NOT BEING LONELY holy fuck OP I WISH I were in your position, I would LITERALLY impregnate random foids if it meant i now have to stay with her (oh noooooo how will I endure that, no longer being so horribly lonely all the time)
fucking hell
>losing the best of my youth.
let me tell you something
I had NONE of that "best of my youth" it was constant misery and loneliness you do NOT want to naively trade everything you have for what will most likely amount to nothing you will REGRET THIS HORRIBLY if you go down this way in 5 years mark my fucking words kiddo
