I don’t know why...but I just do. (What is ghosting?)

Ghosting is just not responding to them anymore online.

Doesn't really work with people you meet irl. (in real life)

 

 

Why is he/she a bad friend?

Cut contact with no explanation. Just don't contact them again. Vanish like a ghost.

 

If a person is bad to you, you owe them nothing. They will take advantage of you for as long as you allow it. In the end, your own happiness is the most important thing, or at least it should be.

I can’t do that, I have to tell them, it’s our way. Even if I could *He* always knocks on my door to hangout

Let’s just say a certain friend of mine is associating himself with the wrong group of people,

I tried to persuade him to stop, however he kinda seemed happy even when the activities they’re doing are wrong. Am I allowed to prevent someone from their enjoyment, regardless of immorality?. Or should I’ve been a supporting a friend and perhaps socialize with the negative residents? I don’t know what’s right anymore.

is he smoking crack?

try stopping him again, he doesn't know what he's doing

 

is he smoking weed?

let him, he won't die

Well, you certainly should not change your morality or personality for someone else. Definitely not worth bringing more negativity in your life. It seems you've told him what you think, but he doesn't really care enough to stop. So the foundation of the friendship is weak.

 

In the end, it's up to you. You can always slowly disassociate yourself from him. This is what I did with my old friend from school. I was in a similar situation to you. He socialised with bad people, and he became worse and worse. It also felt to me like he kept me around because he couldn't handle being alone. It was a bad friendship, so I just responded to him less and less, and then the "friendship" withered away on its own.

He indeed does know what he’s doing, everybody in Mongolia knows the side effects to smoking, it’s even advertised on TV, I just wish I knew he had this habit before it was too late

 

That’s not the only problem. As his friend he wants me to join him...I don’t want to.

I don’t have that much friends, it’s hard finding people my age. And he and I have been friends since childhood. But you’re right this ceases tomorrow.

cigarettes? or what

 

You don't need to do the same as him to stay friends.

You won't find new childhood friends, imo it's worth to keep in touch.

 

Trust me, I've been there. (I was the idiot trying to convince my childhood friend to smoke some joints thought lol)

Cigarettes, I don’t think there is anything such as weed in my country. I believe it’s illegal.

How old are you? Cigarettes isn't such a big deal I guess, but don't be pressured. I was pressured into smoking in school, and it's really really hard to quit. And in my opinion it's more about respect. As a friend, he should respect your views and boundaries, and not pressure you. If he ignores, then he doesn't respect you.

Thanks for the pep talk, and I appreciate everyone’s concern, but I’d rather not say about my age though.

Understandable. Hope it works out for you.

Do it straight like an arrow.

1. Tell him what you think is wrong with him.

2. Tell him you won't hang out with him anymore.

having read this thread up until now I'd say a convenient line you can draw is no smoking when you're around

say that smoke bothers you too much and you don't want to smell of it when you get home (it really gets into your clothes even if you're just next to a smoker)

What's the drug, alcohol and cigarette scene like in Mongolia?

Wh-why would you like to know?

Because Mongolians are rarer than a tulip in winter and I'm curious of your cultural insight.

Rare?, are you curious enough to....visit?

Also about the drugs and alcohols there are plenty enough to cause trouble.

I'd love to visit Mongolia and ride a horse around and hang out with locals. wud b laff

I recommend visiting during summer, cause that is the most fun season.

Unless you’re more of a winter person.

 

If a friend is bad why care about hurting their feelings?

What's there to do during the winter? I would gladly visit during the summer if I could.

 

 

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