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United StatesPosting in hopes Bernd seesBernd2020-12-20 18:03:25 · 6yNo. 105421reply
>I recently started college, and it feels impossible to connect with anyone.
>I can substitute my need for socialization with gondola
I know the feeling, but please don't. Go to all the clubs and student organizations that interest you. Talk to people during lectures. Form study groups, do things with people, have fun. You will feel like not a piece of shit, and you will be more motivated to do well in school. In the first year I was the most active and outgoing, and it was also the year I did the best academically. The year (second year) when I was shut in that didn't talk to people was also the year that I failed courses and felt miserable. By third year, I finally made some friends that I could connect with, but by that I time I had already fugged my schooling up. I would go to my friend's place and they would work on file systems, kernels, neural networks in group projects, and I would sit there awkwardly because I was repeating a course from the year before. I dropped out 4 years ago and now work at a shitty dead end job.
 
From one Bernd to another, I am giving you the advice I would give to my past self. Become involved; give yourself a reason to wake up every morning. Also, study groups are very important, please join one! They sound lame, but they are not! You will dutifully study and make friends in your field. It is the same principle as going with a gym partner. Much better than anhedonia and wanted to kys, anyway.
United StatesBernd2020-12-20 22:00:23 · 6yNo. 105423reply
Couldn't agree more. I went through college without really making any good friend, just having a few people I'd study with and I regret not getting involved so much.
 
To try to put it another way, in 20 years you're not really going to give a shit if you got an A or B in class X (neither will your employer btw) but you will remember good stories and hold them dear
 
 
t. Not OP
AustraliaBernd2020-12-21 01:33:36 · 6yNo. 105427reply
Clubs are great. Sure sometimes they are full of student politics and drama, but the range of experiences you can get, often for cheap membership prices are worth it.
United StatesBernd2020-12-21 01:39:47 · 6yNo. 105428reply
I have no friends and never had a girlfriend
AustraliaBernd2020-12-21 07:57:24 · 6yNo. 105429reply
You don't have to make friends. But participating is a way of doing things and having experiences to shape yourself into a well-rounded individual.
A lot of universities have clubs directly related to fields you can use to network and explore your interests, eg. an engineering students society.
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