I had less tfw no gf moments when my dog was alive.

t. turned few days ago 32

Heartbreak?

 

petgarch!

Also congrats Bernd, 30s is supposed to be something special.

Thanks you friend.

 

I keep waiting, what time will bring.

Also why you can't find a gf in a big city like Helsinki?

Well at least my older siblings were in long-term relationships if not outright married by 30, had financial stability and a nakama they could die for.

 

OP naturally has none of that.

I am unappealing both in personality and looks, it's only natural everyone avoids me.

Did you try just to lie? I mean to fake you mindset?

Finns don't lie.

We are to good for this world.

No seriously, it's in the mother's milk; either be brutally honest or shut up.

 

Also in my case "love thyself" or "put on a smile" never worked, the inner critic just scoffs at such pretend tactics.

My father once said its because we were disciplined by our babushkas.

Explain please.

 

My babushkas died by the time I was toddler.

Village babushkas still belive in God and fear the possible punishment. And thats why they don't want that their childerend and grandchildrens lie.

 

I bet at least one of your parents were not in the Kindergarten.

instead they were at babushka.

instead they were at babushka

True, very traditional upbringing for both of them.

 

Takapajuinen junttila Suomi on.

I had a gf I guess at 22 and now almost 3 years later the feels are almost gone, now they are more a second thought always in my head. Feels nice I prefer being alone anyways, being with a partner only made me very miserable with all the manipulation and trying to be the good guy and whatnot.

Yes. I prefer not having a gf just because I feel too much. I can’t be a chad and not fall in love

No, but once you've known how nice having gf actually is, not having one feels worse.

Lucky son of a bitch, you are free.

 

Call me normie, but more hurts the truth what a failure I am for not getting one single gf or sexual experience by this age. Constant proof I am irredeemably damaged and genetic trash. The lack of social and physical contact is something, but god the social shame is on another level.

 

I just want the others to like me, is that wrong?

There, more appropriate.

I envy you. If I could go back and not be tricked into feels I wouldn’t have been miserable the past three years

Probably not true. Very few people are truly so ugly that they can't get gf. Appearance can even be improoved to a certain degree. Personality can also be improoved.

The inevitable rejection would feel even worse if I made an effort.

 

The thread turned out very whiny and self-centric, apologies.

Well, with that mindset you will never have a gf. The next best course of action is finding a way to cope with this choice.

Just stop crying over nothing bro

It isn't just nothing. Fucking nihilist. Love or companionship is important and never does go away despite your debased coping mechanisms. Some can distract it with their hobbies or substitutes, but it is a healthy and eternal emotion seeking fulfillment, which is stronger for others as well as women who seek their counterpart.

Fair enough.

 

It’s useless like polishing a turd.

If you're a Bernd who is at or near wizard level, have you considered taking a leap and trying what you've never tried instead of making excuses again? One day you will not have any excuses left and it'll be too late for you. I'm not talking about simple self-improvement like

>>102549, but more radical solutions from substances like psychedelics (my tried and true advice to anyone who is struggling with life) and perhaps anabolic steroids to Eastern European brides or sex tourism whether outright visiting poor SEA/S. Am. shitholes or going someplace where whites are favored such as Korea or Japan.