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I have improved my tinder skills and profile so much that I can more or less consistently get a date every weekend. So far, this has lead to one second date with kissenings, but no third date or sex. I wonder how long it will take to achieve that or if it will stop to work before I get that far.
One annoying thing, or something I don't yet know how to deal with perfectly, is the issue of getting a second date after the first one. You aren't supposed to ask right away, so I wait for a day or two, but sometimes grilles take a day or two to text back and probably sometimes don't really know if they want to or not. So it often gets dangerously close to the next weekend without me having clarity about whether there will be a second date or if I should ask a new girl out.
There's something going wrong earlier, before you even ask for the second date. Grills don't take that long to decide, usually if they reply slowly they aren't interested.
How are your first dates going? Do you manage to have a good conversation? Would you like to see them again even if the goal wasn't just sexings?
I'm not saying I'm a master seducer, just that I improved my social skills to get to this point.
I know Bernds give bad advice most of the time, I'm mainly here to share.
Yeah I know. I mean often times it's just that you meet in person and figure out you don't have the right chemistry. That's impossible to tell without meeting irl and you can't force it. So there can't be a 100% success rate anyway.
First dates are usually just going for a walk outside and talking because of corona. It never goes really badly, but one time the gril was really boring and I didn't want to meet her again. Sometimes it's just mediocre and I'd be willing to fug them if that's their only goal. Two or three times it was really good from my perspective, but the girl didn't want to go further...
Also my main focus is not just getting benin in bagina. My main interest is physical intimacy, but I can't just have that with anyone. There needs to be a frenly connection at least, even if I'm not looking for marriage.
Yes, women have hundreds of choices while most men need to fish for crumbs. I have a profile that is performing above average, but it still is hard.
But I have met two amazing girls there already, one who was an amazing fwb for about a year and another one who is now just a good friend.
And talking to women irl is impossible because of the pandemic, maybe you missed it. Bars and basically all other places for socializing are closed. In the supermarket everyone wears a mask and wants to gtfo as quickly as possible. At the park everyone keeps their distance and doesn't want to interact with strangers.